Bad Decisions a Man Can Make in His Youth

A few thoughts...

I have noticed that you have Bible scripture commentaries. I've listened to them some but not a full commentary. I'm under the impression that you're not a Christian, so I've assumed that you interpret them from an atheistic/agnostic point of view. Anyone is free to read the Bible but it bothers me if you are giving deep commentaries from an atheistic/agnostic point of view. It also bothers me that you make Bible commentaries but often frequently refer to furthering one's genes. That is a reference to Evolutionary Theory/Darwinian/Atheistic/Agnostic. That is a contradiction. The Bible does not teach that the purpose of life is to get married and have children. The whole point of most religions is that there is more to life than such things.

In a past video, you mentioned to viewers that a man should be absolutely terrified if he thought he came across the love of his life but somehow blew it and she was gone forever. Well, that's me. But even if I could find another woman in my life who was not "the one," so long as I could forward my genes into the future, you would say it would be worth it. You make a constant reference to this, and that anyone who does not is essentially an Evolutionary failure. Well, maybe. But you leave out living a lonely and possibly miserable life, as well. That may be more of a reason, although from a selfish point of view, to see yourself as a failure, than worrying about one's genes.

But this idea that a man should be terrified that he missed his dream girl, his one chance, his only purpose in life, for his genes to go into the next generation, leaves out all those miserable men that did that and had their child aborted, or he was divorced and his children raised by someone who hates him and teaches them to hate him also, or is raised by another man, or a man who stays married but the house is ran by his wife and he is miserable, etc. There are countless examples of men having children but still being miserable for one reason or another.

A single man may do a lot of good in the world. He may put out fires, be a doctor, work in animal rescue, etc. But the guy who married the love of his life, had children, and had a successful, happy marriage, is more of a success, and the single guy who made a difference and fought many battles to do some kind of good in the world is a massive failure. Even from a atheistic/agnostic point of view, I'm not sure that is logical.

You're married, and happily married, and you have children. You're a lot like the elders and preachers at church that bash any men that don't get married. I'm 51, and they've never criticized women in all the years I've gone to church. Nor do they criticize the governments, the military's of the world, the politicians, the corporations, foundations, think tanks, etc. Only the young men, and the only ones who hear it, are the ones who are there. So, essentially, they only criticize the young men that attend church. Everyone else gets a free pass. In a lot of ways, you're just like them; the typical "old guy" bashing anyone who hasn't gotten married and had kids, only you make it sound scientific and logical. Possibly you're right that I should be terrified that I haven't, but it could also be asked of you and your argumentative position: Should you be terrified if there is more to life than getting married and having children? You are a success by your own definition. Change the definition to be that there is more to life than getting married and having children. Would you be a success by a different definition? Should you be terrified if there is more to life than getting married and having kids?