Nagging: The Other N Word | Live From The Lair

SEX with the same woman, starts to get BORING after a year or two..... However you can always fuck her mother, sister, daughter, cousin, best friend etc.

It's OK, the nagging bitch will understand.

Married Man here....YUP, before marriage I was living with a girl friend and she started bitching constantly, you are never at home, I need more ( filling in the blank ), were you out with some one else ( I had no time for that and the commute was 1-2 hrs each way , every day). I left that one due to bitching, when I got home, and the insecurity on her part. This went on for years and I finally said.....I am moving, the truck will be here in a few days, I wll not renew lease- where are you going to live next month with all that crap YOU WANTED.
Before getting married ( to other woman), I repeated several times to the fiancee ..NEVER ASK A QUESTION THAT YOU DON'T WANT ANSWERED AND ASK YOURSELF- YOU ARE WILLING TO LIVE WITH THE ANSWER.
Seems to have helped a bit, and that put an end to potential nagging.

See it all the time or women i know who married now has a kid or 2 and complains about the man they CHOOSE to say YES to. So glade i dont share my paycheck with a woman. NO WOMAN NO CUT IN COSTS her insurance her vehicle repairs.... women i known seem to choose men who have no skills. How the sam hell did they get through life without learning a simple trade. Country living vs city living we out in the county learn to fix our own crap. All i see are men who play video games have 2 kids and a hot wife and have a stupid yt channel. So many men let a woman change even their bathroom 1000s in reno repairs... get married she says I do not like the house i want bigger you sell like a friend did and its then property community estate the first house he built by his hands took 10 yrs nice house but was not 4 bedrooms and she wanted a big family. 1 yr after selling that house they bought a house in the meantime and divorce she got the house and now alimony. ITS NOT WORTH IT. The family court is so corrupt. When i was last in canada i had driven past the court house and seen men holding signs up. THEY took my house pension and years of marriages their sign read. Maybe why 5 gallon buckets and portland cement is non existant at home depot ? asking for a friend.....

Not sure how this will be received, but here goes....

My parents were married 50 years when my dad died. THEY are the reason I never married nor desire to get married. Old-school Catholics, so divorce wasn’t an option absent physical abuse or infidelity. They fed each other’s unhappiness.

Faults were on both sides. Mom is a nagger and is great for coming up with ideas of things to do but doesn’t do the work...loves to supervise. Dad was emotionally abusive. In fairness, he was physically abused by an alcoholic father, and while he was determined to not do to his family what his dad did to him, he could never face his inner demons, and his pain manifested as emotional abuse. It was a confusing situation. My dad was my most ardent defender yet was the single most abusive person in my life.

Now that dad is gone, we are better. Mom still nags, but a lot less. I put my foot down and she drops it...I avoid escalating. I think this is because she’s voting Biden and I’m voting Trump...and we live under the same roof as I help maintain the house. It took me 3 years to openly say that I hated my dad for the bad things he did. The ugly things he uttered about regretting marriage and family in the end is why both of us were just waiting for him to die. Mom stuck by him out of guilt...wanting to divorce him but knowing it was tantamount to abandonment. I stuck by him out of obligation...for all his mistakes, he was always there when I needed him...I owed him no less.

What makes a happy marriage? The best I’ve learned from people who seem to have it working somewhat effectively....

1. Have realistic expectations going in. I know a therapist who remarried an unattractive woman after his divorce because he good-looking wife dumped him for someone else. He knows this one can’t expect to do better if she also walks out. Everyone wants the smoking hot wife or Adonis husband, but it’s easy to miss out on quality when deciding on superficial appearances.

2. No traditional wedding vows = mistake. The ones who I see making it work saw marriage as a life-long commitment...not a phase of life. People who want to avoid the old vows of love, honor, cherish and OBEY, “forsaking all others for as long as you both shall live” are already looking for a way out.

3. They divide up household responsibilities. Rather than fight over what to do in each situation, they decide who will handle certain situations. Both have input, but one is tasked with determining the best choice to pursue.

4. They undergo pre-marital counseling which touches not just on what it means to be married, but how to handle finances, how to raise and discipline children, sex, etc. so the couple is in agreement of how they expect things to be in the marriage before getting married.

5. The best advice I’ve seen in practice is, “If BOTH parties focused on what would make their partner happy and not what they want for themselves, they’d have nothing to fight about.” In couples where I see this, both sides get some of what they want and both learn there is more joy in mutual giving to one another than trying to pry it by force.